That’s not how I remember it!

I was recently listening to a Duke University research podcast that talked about emotions and emotional memory.  Follow me, this is diet related…

Associate professor Stacy Wood mentioned her study on our ability to remember how we felt regarding various events in life.  She mentions three states she observed regarding how we feel:

  1. How we expect to feel about an event should it occur
  2. How we actually feel when an event occurs
  3. How we think we felt during the event after it has occured

What she found was interesting (at least to me).  We have expectations on how an event will feel that may not (and often do not) match the way we actually feel when the event happens.  That’s not too interesting until you found out that the way we ‘think’ we felt during an event tends to match the way we ‘expected’ to feel rather than the way we ‘actually’ felt.

Did I lose you?  Let me use an example – I love to eat.  I love to over eat.  I expect that eating a second and third dessert will feel great.  Then I actually eat the second (or third) slice of pie and feel miserable.  But if you ask me next week how it felt to eat three desserts today, I’m going to tell you how good it was.

How can this information help me?  I’m not sure yet, exactly.  But I think that if I can somehow remind myself how miserable it feels to overeat before I actually overeat, I might be able to avoid overeating.

I want to correctly remember how overeating feels.  I want to expect that this miserable feeling is how overeating will feel.  If I can change my ‘expectation’ regarding how eating, when I’m not hungry, will feel, then maybe I can change my actions when I’m faced with a table full of awesome looking treats at a company holiday party… 🙁

The Worst Part of this diet is that I’m always full

I’m serious – the worst part of this diet is that I’m always full. If you have been following the blog this month then you know how much I am addicted to eating. The key to this diet is listening to your body when it tells you its full. I am learning to know what that means, and so far, I don’t like what I’m seeing.

Today I was eating with Stephanie using the techniques taught in this book; eating slow, chewing each bite, enjoying the food completely before taking the next bite. Stephanie actually made the comment that she has never seen me eat so slowly. Less than 10 bites in, I was full. Completely full.

For someone that loves to eat as much as I do, this is bad news. I know that most diets tell you that you have to have portion control and moderation, but this one doesn’t do that. Paul McKenna simple asks you to stop eating when you are full. Soon after learning how to recognize what being full means, I realized that I am always full on this diet. Have I really been overeating every single meal for the last 30 years?

I used an example earlier equating the activity of eating to playing with a puppy; this doesn’t seem to resonate with most of my readers. What if I told you that you can drink alcohol but only if you are actually thirsty and you have to stop as soon as you are no longer thirsty? I now see why ‘less filling’ would be a selling point.

Or think of when the Catholic Church told its congregates that they can have sex, but only to procreate. Do skinny people ever eat just because they like the taste of something?

Its too early to say, but I think this might be a life changing moment for me. I used to think my issue was an addiction to food but now I know its an addiction to eating. I don’t have to give up eating any particular food but I may have to give up the activity of what I’m going to call recreational eating.

Sayings like “nothing tastes as good as thin feels” never worked for me. Maybe because I don’t care what the food tastes like, I am addicted to the act of eating, regardless. I think “Eating isn’t as fun as being thin” might work better for me..

Not weighing yourself down: by Albert Tubbs

I had a good day today. My biggest problem was fighting the urge to weigh myself.

One of the suggestions from Mckenna is not your weigh yourself any more than once a month (every two weeks tops). The thought is that weighing yourself often doesn’t help you listen to your body but to the scale.

I get it and it’s true. If I weighed myself while trying to lose weight and it was a bad number, I may eat less. I understand my eating less was really starving myself off and on all the time.

Being in tune with what your body is goal and I think that is beginning to happen for me.

Still, I want to know how much I weigh.

PS: I would enjoy hearing others who have read or are reading “I can make you thin”.