I was listening to a podcast on my road trip yesterday when I heard a very familiar quote. I’m sure you have heard it many times too:
If I can do it. then I know you can
Why? I don’t get it. Is that person saying they are the weakest person on the planet in whatever “it” is and that their ability to do “it” means anyone can do it? Or are they assuming that their struggle is somehow so much more difficult than ours could possibly be that we should have no trouble in our attempt to accomplish whatever “it” is since they were able to do “it”?
Everybody is different. Just because I can do something, doesn’t mean anyone else in a similar situation can do it – no matter what “it” is. I was able to ride my bicycle 735 miles in 2007 from Glendale, AZ to Del Rio, TX in just under two weeks. I weighed over 285 lbs when I started (and when I finished, believe it or not). I don’t think it would be fair to say to anyone – “if I can ride over 700 miles on my bike, I know you can”. It was hard work for me to accomplish that – and saying you could do it just because I did belittles my accomplishment as well as insults you if you are not able to do it.
What’s my point? We shouldn’t compare each others journeys. Everyone is different. You may not be able to run daily and you may have such a hard time with food cravings that you have failed any type of diet many times over – Or maybe you do eat only 1200 calories a day and run twice a day – that doesn’t mean I can. I think its important that we remember everyone is different and just because you can do something doesn’t mean anyone else can. The best we can do for each other is encouragement and accountability – not cliche’s like “drink more water” (although you really should… hahaha) and “if I can do it, so can you!”