Comments on: Sorry I was late, but I’m FAT

By: dsackr

dsackr — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 21:49:43 +0000

Thanks for your comments!

By: Weight still a private issue for me

Weight still a private issue for me — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 20:34:34 +0000

Hey Dale,

Great post and I relate to the issue, too much. I have been has high as 320 lbs. and as an adult as low as 240lbs. I kept the weight off for about 2 years. There are a couple of things that I now am aware of about me that I was not then.

1- I felt different at 280lbs and at that time that would have been about a lose of 15lbs.
2- Even at 240lbs to me I looked the same in the mirror. My pants were a different size and my belt was different. Yet, what I say was the fat kid I always saw.
3- When gaining back the weight I saw the same thing in the mirror at 280lbs as I did at 240lbs. Also, I wasn’t aware that I felt different until about 290lbs.
4- I thought once I lost the weight I was “cured” and had beat the problem. I wasn’t aware enough to realize it is a life long battle.

I’ve learned that I have to weigh myself at least weekly to know where I really am and I can’t have just a little dessert. Now, the difference for me when I was 240lbs was the only sweets food I ate was out of the house, like at restaurants or somebody elses home.

For me after losing the weight, body image is still an issue.

Also, Randy– could you explain “Have you given your weight issue to Him yet” comment?

By: dsackr

dsackr — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 16:41:45 +0000

Randy – you know I always value your input in person and on the web! Thanks for commenting – congrats on all your weight loss – I’ll be joining you daily…

By: dsackr

dsackr — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 16:40:18 +0000

Thanks for the encouragement Kelly! I’m “Choosing Losing” everyday now!

By: Randy

Randy — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 15:40:24 +0000

Thanks for sharing that Dale. I thought for sure when I reached the bottom of your post I would see that it was going to be a quote from someone else. Have you given your weight issue up to Him yet? I went shopping with Sharolyn yesterday and all XL were too big. I bought roughly 20 items and one shirt was a ” S “, it is a little too small, but will work with layering well and a few shirts were ” M “, with 80% being ” L “. I now have a huge pile of XXL and XXXL that I will be kicking to the curb this week.

Keeping posting and keep moving in the right direction. I’ll support you and hold you accountable if you would like my help.

Cheers,

Randy

By: Just_Kelly

Just_Kelly — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 15:22:21 +0000

I’m late but because I’m lazy and don’t like getting up!

Remember to reward yourself for what success you have experienced. It’s the accumulation of all those small changes that yield the big ones you are looking for!

By: dsackr

dsackr — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 15:00:58 +0000

Thanks for commenting!

BTW – I’ve added your website Angie All The Way to my blogroll!

By: Angie All The Way

Angie All The Way — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 14:18:44 +0000

In the beginning I felt that way about people noticing. At first when I got to around the 30 lb mark and I knew that the clothes felt differently, I was beaming inside and while some people did notice (mostly those who didn’t see me on a regular basis), I was wondering why the hell people couldn’t see it? Now that I’m further along in the progress, I realize it is because 30 lbs IS a lot of weight to lose, but it looks different on everyone and is relative. Personally, I am one of those people who doesn’t notice things about people (i.e. haircuts and clothes). Although I do notice changes in people’s general attitude and mood which then leads me to those things.

I also felt embarrassed when people would compliment me when the weight was coming off. It reminded me that I was in a position to have to lose weight and that was embarrassing to me. Now, I wear it like a badge and I’m proud of it. I feel like this journey is a defining moment in my life and its changed my complete perception of almost everything. It’s like blinders come off little by little when you’re ready for them to. I promse that as the weight comes off more and more, you will “get used to” being complimented and it will represent something different to you. It is not a vanity thing whatsoever. You’ll get it and udnerstand what I’m saying when you get there Accept them graciously because you deserve them. Not everyone can acheive this feat!

By: dsackr

dsackr — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 13:47:33 +0000

To be honest, this was a difficult post to write – It was a little more personal than I like to be with people I’m close with – much less ‘the world wide web’!

I see you are in the BLBE challenge with me! Hopefully we can keep each other motivated! I have added your website 1000001timesacharm.blogspot.com to my weight loss blog links!

By: dsackr

dsackr — Mon, 05 Jan 2009 13:44:48 +0000

Well, my first goal is to break 280 – that will be 28lbs. I can already tell the difference in some of my clothes but at 280lbs, I’m still the biggest boy in the room…

90lbs! WOW! congrats to her!