There A Snake in My Garden Salad

“Its your son’s birthday party – you can make an exception… you can take this one night off… RIGHT?  Surely you don’t think you will have to go the rest of your life without ever having a piece of pizza or a slice of cake, do you?” said the snake.  The snake was the most cunning of all of the animals in the garden salad.

Dale replied, “But I’m a food addict and OA told me that those foods can be triggers to binge eating and even total relapse.”

“You aren’t a drug addict, Dale.  You have to eat to live – besides surely they didn’t mean you would never EVER have another piece of pizza.  The truth is that you need to learn moderation – so having JUST ONE PIECE is a healthy sign of your progress” said the snake.

And Dale did eat the piece of pizza and the slice of cake and two large plates of salad and seeing that it was tasty food, only felt a little bad for his food choice.  After all, he did only have one piece of the pizza and only one small slice of the cake.  It was his son’s birthday party…

But the snake knew.  Saturday morning weigh in – almost 2lbs heavier than what he was a week ago, Dale updated his webstats and that beautiful big red 21 now reads 19.  The snake had invited his old friend, Discouragement to the house knowing the results would warrant the need for comfort.  So Discouragement came.

Discouragement had an idea and shared it with Dale – “Listen, you’ve had a rough week – and you have been doing sooo good lately that maybe your body just needs to reset – take a day off.  You deserve it for all of your efforts so far!”

“What a great idea!”, Dale replied.  So Saturday was filled with all of the foods that Dale had said no to for so many weeks – starting with oatmeal as a good food choice but quickly moving on to pancakes with blueberry syrup, hash browns with ketchup, and eggs as part of a complete breakfast!  Later it was a bowl of sugary cereal and after that was bottomless french fries from Red Robin with dipping sauces.  The snake and disappointment continued to keep Dale company throughout the day and at one point Dale repeated disappointments words to his wife, “who knows, I might even find that my body needed the day off – and lose weight tomorrow”.  At the movie that night it was pop corn with butter and salt… but “a diet dr pepper, I mean lets not go crazy” the snake said to Dale as he ordered.

His wife was worried.  And for good reason.  Sunday morning the scale waited down stairs having heard of Dale’s day off, knowing he would have to give him bad news that day – and bad news he did give.  Six and one half pounds.  “What!” Dale exclaimed… “how is that even possible!”  But it was not only possible, it happened.  In that one day off, Dale had put on six and one half pounds of weight.

“Don’t worry about it, its all water weight and besides, you don’t have to tell anyone because you only update your webstats on Saturday’s – they don’t have to know” said Disappointment with Snake nodding his head in agreement.  All morning Dale was thinking about six and one half pounds; through the church sermon and into lunch.  Lunch.  Dale tried to make a good choice by ordering the grilled chicken sandwich, but Disappointment and Snake both said “and an order of fries”, and the cashier put fries on the order without even a word to Dale about how fat he was getting.

But… Snake and Disappointment were not the only ones interested in Dale over this weekend.  Resolve had been trying to get Dale’s attention since Friday night without success and when he saw Disappointment had joined the Snake, he went to get Redemption.  Redemption and Resolve had a long talk with Dale on Sunday night.  They were not going to give up on Dale.  Resolve had a friend of Dale’s send him an email with this statement:

While writing this journal I had the thought come to me, “every time I told myself NO today, I was saying YES to my breakthrough”. I’m sure tomorrow will provided my chances to say “Yes” to my breakthrough.

Redemption convinced Dale that each day is new and that he can face the day without shame from yesterday – “Dale, face this day anew.  Forget yesterday, its over and done with.  Today you will have chances to say Yes to your breakthrough.”

Resolve piped in – “It won’t be easy and you will have to say No to yourself, but together we can do it!

What great friends Dale has found in the midst of his crisis.  With Redemption by his side for his Yesterday, and Resolve by his side for his Today – Dale will not quit… He will move forward!

17 comments

  1. Hilary aka Ms. Turtle · January 12, 2009

    I can relate to this little tale. . . . I had a less-dramatic but similar experience yesterday. Back on the horse, Dale! You can do this! And so can I.

    • dsackr · January 12, 2009

      Back on the horse it is! Thank you for your encouragement!

  2. Syselim · January 12, 2009

    I know how you feel. I think the biggest disappointment comes because you had started to gain a little momentum. You were starting to eat better, make good decisions, and see positive results. You really don’t know how much momentum you have going for you until you slip up horribly and it gets taken away from you. Then there’s the starting over. Ground zero. Day 1.

    It’s always ironic for me because my crashes are never during the hard beginning phases; they are always after I have good results and then slack off as soon as I’ve become a little bit proud of my accomplishments.

    — I think something to be taken from this especially from a competitive point of view is that you are still winning. You ARE in the red. You aren’t back where you started and there is still plenty of time to gain your footing and start down the right path again. From my history the first couple days after a slip are the hardest. The solace comes in that fact that it will only take a day or two of hitting the workout hard and making good choices to start building momentum again.

    Keep it up!

    • dsackr · January 12, 2009

      Its been almost two months since I started and this is where I have failed at many other dieting attempts in the past. This time however I have you guys encouragement me to keep it up – and I don’t take that lightly.

      I mean it when I say – Thank you!

  3. Meg · January 12, 2009

    Dale, this is an awesome, honest, courageous post. You are truly an inspiration.

    You have done great things over the last (nearly) two months. You really should be proud of yourself.

    Moving on from this weekends setback is a real achievement! Keep up the good work. You CAN do it!!

    Meg

    • dsackr · January 12, 2009

      Wow Meg – I really appreciate the encouragement – the comments I have received on twitter, facebook, email, and here on the site have been overwhelming in the best way.

  4. Brendan · January 12, 2009

    I give you credit man. Its tough. i started weighing myself every morning .. it was the only way I could track it and then i only had to make it to make it one day. Worked great for a while (20lbs) before I fell off the wagon.

    Keep it up.

    • dsackr · January 12, 2009

      Looks like I’m at that critical point (right at 20lbs lost) that I could either quit (again) or push through to a new level of commitment. I am finding this blog to be a major source of inspiration to keep pushing on…

      Thanks for commenting on my blog, man! I love knowing people care enough (or dare I say my writing is good enough) for people to take the time…

  5. Donella · January 12, 2009

    well, at least your being tricked by the snake didn’t cause you to have the things that Eve caused all womanhood to have!

    now, seriously, just put yesterday behind you and carry on with tomorrow… because as Scarlett O’Hara said: “Tomorrow is another day.”

    Push through- stay the course- remember why you wanted this in the first place.

    Here’s a little something I was thinking of just the other day. I remember having to memorize this and recite it for English class… I could never get past the first few lines in reciting from memory but rereading it after all this time it makes so much more sense!

    Two roads diverged in a yellow wood
    And sorry I could not travel both
    And be one traveller, long I stood
    And looked down one as far as I could
    To where it bent in the undergrowth

    Then took the other as just as fair
    And having perhaps the better claim
    Because it was grassy and wanted wear
    Though as for that, the passing there
    Had worn them really about the same

    And both that morning equally lay
    In leaves no step had trodden black
    Oh, I kept the first for another day!
    Yet, knowing how way leads onto way
    I doubted if I should ever come back

    I shall be telling this with a sigh
    Somewhere ages and ages hence
    Two roads diverged in a wood
    And I took the one less travelled by
    And that has made all the difference

    Robert Frost

    • dsackr · January 12, 2009

      I have put it behind me – I just got back from a nice walk (1.83 m / 397 calories)!

  6. Emily · January 12, 2009

    Wow, I am really inspired by what you wrote. I feel the same way most weekends. Hang in there, resolve is on your side.

    • dsackr · January 12, 2009

      Resolve and Redemption – my best friends… I’m humbled that people are finding inspiration in my posts – You guys have certainly returned the favor with your kind words!

      BTW Emily – I linked your blog (http://elangston.blogspot.com) in my sidebar…

  7. Amy · January 12, 2009

    Great job getting to resolve and redemption!

    • dsackr · January 12, 2009

      Thank you, Amy, for your encouragement!

  8. Val · January 12, 2009

    I feel like I was reading my own story in what you said!! That is amazing. I am so glad you found your resolve. It was inspirational post and I can’t wait to see you post a loss for team Lynn!!

    GO TEAM LYNN!

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